SOUL SICKNESS AND SOUL LOSS # 10

TREATMENT

And as for you power what are you doing in the wrong circle.

What you touch touches you. What you let touch, enhances or diminishes.

"One who guards  his mouth and tongue, guards his soul from troubles." Proverbs

"Guard my tongue from evil and my lips from speaking deceit." Psalms

Our Thoughts

"Our thoughts become our words 

Our words become our behavior.

Our behavior becomes our habits.

Our habits become our values

And our values become our destiny." 

M. Gandhi 

"The soul becomes dyed with the color of our thoughts."

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." Marcus Aurelius

"What we speak becomes the house we live in." Hafiz

Avoid vexatious people and their thought talk.

We need to guard our words with care.

 Care as in carefully and care as in caringly.

We need to decide which Mind we are going to use, Monkey or Big Mind.

The Mind controls the heart

Imagination creates possibilities

Choice sets the intent

Will actualizes

 Our own thoughts are influenced by our words and the words of others which can be imprinted in our subconscious. No matter how we think we will speak or act, what happens may manifest out of our subconscious rather than our conscious minds. 

Imagination is a dormant power, usually removed from us by our schooling.  The subconscious can be primed positively, more especially around sleep or in a meditative state using healthful imagery. The senses empower the imagination and make us feel it in our body.

The soul's conversation is best heard with the senses.

 Everything begins with the thought and the word.

Imagining positive potentials can materialize positively, negative ones negatively. 

 First imagine and see yourselves in a new way. Not just as someone striving and trying but as someone already succeeded and 'arrived.' Free of negative energy with the power to do amazing things. Then take action and actualize that power 

to help others, 

ridding yourself of the slightest doubt.

 The intention to use this power to help others is key to getting oneself out of the way. Because of free will we need to ask to receive, very specifically, in detail, and then the 'Field', your guides, Jesus, God can act.

MANAGING SHAME 

"Just as its presumptuous to put ourselves above others, so it is pretentious to put ourselves below them." Unknown

“Bring your sister grief by the hand and tell her to come and sit by the fire with you. Grief gives special honor to your losses and her tears are precious jewels that can be strung on strands of memory to be worn with pride and beauty by one’s spirit.”
Mpofu’s Grandmother

Submitting to guilt, and especially shame, tells us that we are no good. Shame can create a downward spiral leading to more shame. We all do bad things but that does not make us bad. Regret and remorse are feeling bad about one has done. Shame is feeling bad about who one is. It is possible to self-correct using guilt and even shame but they are best avoided.

"Shame is the swampland of the soul." C.G. Jung

“If we do not transform our pain we will most assuredly transmit it.” R. Rohr

The biggest danger is when we do not take accountability and self-enable or are enabled by others. We may then project our pain onto  others with malice, anger, hatred, envy and even a desire to do harm.

"Self-condemnation strengths guilt (and especially) shame which is one of the greatest obstacles on the path of Self-realization. " 

Sri Swami Rama

The Soul is pure and can be redeemed by corrective measures. The soul and body should be allowed to “return” to one another and be in harmony. 

Psychotherapy alone may not be enough to bring the soul back into the body and allow for self-forgiveness.  

 

"The voice of shame is self-judgment, silence, secrecy and invisibility." Brene’ Brown

  

“The wound carries the medicine.” African proverb

 

The only way out of it is through it. Restoring self-love and self-worth can be difficult. Being invulnerable is the enemy of shame.

"I am a rock, I am an island, and a rock feels no pain and an island never cries." Paul Simon

 This can be part of a 'Lone Ranger,' individualistic mentality and is not healthful  

 Being vulnerable is to be courageous which implies having the courage to be imperfect and to come out of the closet of shame. To have compassion and empathy for oneself – to treat oneself as one would a good friend. It requires not being stuck in damaging self-talk and self-blame. 

Isolation is antithetical to healing which in these instance requires community and and the sufferer being open and vulnerable. 

Empathy from a kind, skillful friend, witness or therapist who will listen to one's pain is key.  This is a seminal principle in rehabilitation or recovery programs where one shares one’s dysfunctions with a group in a safe, secure, empathetic environment. 

 

“Shame cannot survive being spoken. Find someone you trust and tell them how you’re feeling. Talking with a trusted person will give you a fresh perspective on what’s happening, which will challenge the spiral’s negative views.” Brene’ Brown

 

If possible, it is healing to forgive the perpetrator or at least have measure of compassion for them. We never heal completely from a deep injury until we forgive. Above all the sufferer must forgive themselves and get rid of any element of self-blame. Shift the blame to where it belongs. 

Be patient with yourself, kind to yourself and, above all, release yourself from what you are not accountable.

A skillful shaman and ritual, where the 'F'ield' and the Ancestors are invoked, can help subordinate shadow, Monkey mind and ego to their rightful place. 

Indigenous societies use ritual to heal grief and shame. Here there is Coherence in the tribe where the sum of the parts is greater than the whole. Coherence was first described by the Maharishi university who showed that when a critical number of people were meditating in a city the crime rate dropped. Group meditations are usually more powerful than when done alone. Coherence spreads out not only to the immediate group but possibly to the community and even beyond. It also has an effect on the supernal realms which participate through our guides and ancestors to help the healing happen.