GUILT AND SHAME 

THE TOXIC CHALLENGES ON THE TRIAD OF LOVE #6

"For yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision... "  Sanscrit

 TEACHINGS THAT EMPOWER

“In the song of the rushing torrent hold onto the joyful assurance: I will become the sea. And this is not a vain supposition, it is absolute humility because it is the truth.” Tagore 

Wisdoms that dispel shame and grief resulting in any of the following;

 Hopelessness, Doubt, Denial, Resignation, Detachment, Unhealthy Convictions, Dogma and Protecting the Persona against all odds.

“The God of the clouds, 
the God of the moon and the sun,
 the God who is templed in all creation is within you and manifests as peace.”  Yogananda 

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"The moment you accept yourself as you are without any comparison, all inferiority, all superiority disappears. In that total acceptance of yourself you will be free from those complexes… otherwise you will suffer your whole life. Just be yourself that is enough. You are accepted by the sun, … the moon,… the trees,… the ocean,… the earth. What more do you want? You are accepted by this whole universe. Rejoice in it!" Osho

When I lose my way
 God will come along the road and reach me. When I grope in the land of forgetfulness, God will remember me.
When I no longer know who I am,
 God will call me by name.
 When darkness is my only companion memories and old prayers will be stars and in time, or beyond it,
 someone will be sent,
 bringing a lamp. 
 Christine Fleming Heffner 

"No matter how long the night, the dawn is sure to come." African proverb

Spiritual practice will open up our access to the Field and help to pacify our stress response. Remember that we may be alone but do not have to feel lonely or isolated. We all have guides, ancestors and even the Creator in the Field supporting us, even if we cannot feel it.

Never yield to weariness of spirit. At times the world’s cares and distractions will intrude and the spirit will become weak. 

At times like this carry on and soon the spirit will become strong again. God’s spirit is always with you to replenish and renew… 

When you are overcome by temporary conditions which you cannot control keep quiet and wait for the power of spirit to flow back.” 24 hours a day

"The winds of grace are always blowing but tis you who must raise your sails.” Tagore 

“Sometimes I go about pitying myself and all the time I am being carried on great winds across the sky.” Ojibway saying

“Since everything is but an apparition perfect in being what it is, having nothing to do with good or bad, acceptance or rejection, you might as well burst out laughing.” Longchenpa

“Recently, one friend asked me, "How can I force myself to smile when I am filled with sorrow? It isn't natural." I told her she must be able to smile to heal sorrow, because we are more than our sorrow. A human being is like a television set with millions of channels. If we turn the Buddha on, we are the Buddha.  If we turn sorrow on we are sorrow. If we turn on a smile, we really are the smile. We cannot let one channel dominate us.  We have the seed of everything in us, and we have to seize the situation in our hand, to recover our own sovereignty.” Thich Nhat Hanh

"If you don't want to see the shadow, turn your face to the sun." Aboriginal wisdom

“If we are willing to open up to it then it is just the unknown, the unplanned, the unexpected, the unfamiliar which can best teach us. In the tiny prefix “un” which so often spells trouble, lies the potential for change, for the new, for the hitherto unconsidered, unimagined, unrealized.” Robert Hinshaw

You cannot control results, only your actions. You cannot predict outcomes, only you choices. 

It is wise to be unattached to the consequences of what we cannot control in a world with so many variables of; light/dark, positive/negative, sacred/profane, holy/unholy.

"Do not depend on the hope of results."  T. Merton

It's not what happens to us but what we do with it that counts.

We are continually being tested - not about how much we know or how well we perform but that our trust, our love and our faith  are being always tested at unexpected times in often unrecognized guises…

The time will come
 when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome and say, sit here. Eat.
 You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you 
all your life, whom you have ignored 
for another, who knows you by heart.
 Take down the love letters from the bookshelf;
 the photographs, the desperate notes, 
peel your own image from the mirror. 
Sit. Feast on your life. 
Derek Walcott

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