GRIEF AND SPIRITUAL TRANSFORMATION # 2
FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is key to helping relieve grief and sorrow. It is more important for the one that is doing the forgiving than the other, who is being forgiven. Forgiveness lightens our load, by getting rid of a subtle "heaviness," that then allows us to move on in a better way.

Forgiveness must begin with 

forgiving ourselves 

before we can forgive others. 

We also need to ask forgiveness of others whom we have wronged. 

To err, is human - to forgive, Divine

ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS

We atone when we ask for forgiveness in a measured way.  

The following steps are necessary 
before one's karmic slate is cleaned.

Recognize and discontinue the action.

Have genuine remorse for what we have done. 

Confess and ask for forgiveness -

even publicly if more than one person has been affected.

(There can also be no excuses rendered for the act or rationalizations or it cannot be received with a full heart. For those who have hurt another but sincerely feel they have done nothing wrong, they can always apologize for the hurt, which may be real for that person.)

Restitution should be made if possible.

Think of a way in which the situation could have been better handled  

And promise themselves and the Creator not to do anything similar again.

and from the karmic view point as well as one's peace of mind and soul...

Like the Prodigal, son when we "Return" we are now returning to our True or Higher Self - renewed.

GIVING FORGIVENESS

Neuroscience is coming into alignment with Ancient Wisdom on forgiveness. Forgiveness is healthful - guilt, cynicism (judgment) unhealthful. 

Guilt is a serious karmic matter after death since if we are unforgiven for our sins we will carry that karmic burden and have to rectify it in the next incarnation.

 The commandment "Honor your father and mother ..."  

(and Native Americans and sub Saharan Africans would add all the grandmothers and fathers as well) 

tells us that the onus is on us to honor our parents. If not for them we would not be on the planet - they gave us the gift of life. The commandment DOES NOT direct us to love or even like them. 

Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation is necessary.

The Ancestors 

For those requiring forgiveness and still on the planet it is relatively easy. For those on the other side shamanic or spiritual help, usually in ritual, is more effective to get the message through completely. 

I am always astonished at how many folks that come for divinations have "shades" or intrusive family spirits hanging around them, hoping for forgiveness to clean the slate, so they do not have to come back again to rectify what they did before. 

There is nothing good about being haunted by an intrusive, dysfunctional ancestor. In a sense its a bit like having their energy (dysfunction or "dis"-ease) back in the home or around us. 

They interfere with our life force and energy, even if not intentionally (much the same way as they did in life.) 

Hence all kinds of abuse should be forgiven and released not only for their sakes but more especially for the sake of the progeny because; 

"The sins of the fathers' and mothers are visited upon the children ..."

Frequently a dysfunctional spirit will reincarnate back into the family blood line and also in that sense are the sins of the fathers' and mothers' visited upon their children. Far better that they are redeemed by forgiveness before they reincarnate.

 There should be no unfinished business before death. All skeletons in the closet should be taken out and aired. Anyone should also be released from unkept promises and commitments.

For those other than our parents, or grandparents it is an internal process that is healthful and healing but entirely dependent on us. It can be profoundly unburdening. Only we can release our negative feelings though mentors and healers can inspire. 

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